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ORGANISATIONAL DEVELOPMENT : CONSCIOUS EVOLUTION
In talking about ‘conscious
evolution’ - moving from unconscious to conscious choice, I
mentioned the idea of ‘composting the past’ so it can fertilise
rather than inhibit our future. This is a highly relevant and complex
topic and one I am personally very passionate about because learning to
see all of life as relevant and connected to everything else in a context
of a miraculous and ever-evolving universe is to see ourselves as active
and integral players, warts and all, in the dynamic mystery of life -
with no-one and nothing left out - including the tough times we are in
for at present.
This article explores the mindset or ‘view’ that helps engage
in the divine alchemical process of turning lead (our ‘crap’
experiences) into gold (insight and action aligned with that insight)…hence
the ‘composting’ metaphor. It deals with our mysterious ‘inner
space’ - that which fuels our actions in the world and is the source
of our fulfillment (or not). When we successfully compost the past we
have more energy available to thrive in the present and invent the future
as conscious co-creators.
During our lives we all have experiences that lift us up and we all have
experiences that can pull us down. In continuing with the gardening metaphor,
when we learn to ‘compost the crap’, that which pulled us
down can be used to lift us up! By cultivating a view that everything
can be useful we can use ‘crap’ to ‘fertilise’.
Any experience can help us learn and grow into more aware and compassionate
people. The point is not to eliminate ‘compost’…or suffering.
The challenge is to see it as natural and even sacred in our process of
life and learn to use it to cultivate wisdom and an enhanced quality of
life. Too often our wounds and suffering become our Achilles heel as we
get stuck in ways of thinking and being that do not lift us up (this is
so for the individual and the collective).
Time can help the composting experience and it doesn’t seem to work
best by itself. When we activate and accelerate the process with a little
conscious attention we heal ourselves faster. This requires a willingness
to truly treat our wounds so they can be integrated into our Being just
as scars are part of our skin.
Left to itself lead will toxify an environment. It is poison. So it is
with our inner environment and unresolved issues. They are
part of our lives and will influence us whether
we want them to or not.
There are many strategies and therapies that can help compost the past
and more seem to emerge every day as we seek to face our monsters and
tackle inner climate change.
One very powerful and effective tool anyone can use is ‘REFRAMING’
or ‘changing the view’. A ‘frame’ is a mental
view or way of seeing something. Reframing gives you a new
view of the same thing. Changing our view or the way
we see something changes our experience, of ourselves or a situation.
Consider the ‘old’ idea (born of the existentialists) that
we are all just insignificant blips with no real influence in a mind bogglingly
vast universe - that we don’t really matter at all. That view or
‘frame’ makes it easy to treat self, others and the environment
as if none of it really matters at all – a cop out indeed and one
more and more people around the world intuitively feel can’t be
right. A different and fast emerging view (reframe) is that we are all
potent vessels of potential that have the capacity to co-create in partnership
with the divine evolutionary impulse – in every single moment. A
new view (even as it is as old as we are) is that we are made of the rarest
stuff in the universe, that our planet and everything about it is sacred
and that there has never been a time where it was anything but sacred
– we just have times of forgetting!
By reframing crap experiences or aspects of ourselves we don’t like
we can compost them and let them lift us towards a future we desire rather
than one we feel we need to ‘settle for’. By asking more of
ourselves, lifting our sights to a ‘higher’ place it becomes
possible to see things differently just as we do when we fly, or when
we are in the stands rather than on the ground at a sports event. The
key is to learn to look at ourselves and our circumstances in ways that
assist our growth and evolution rather than inhibiting it.
Our views must change before anything else can change. It’s our
views, our frames, that hold reality in place. In this way we really do
create our own experience of reality. It’s ‘the view’
that facilitates the ‘do’ i.e. perception informs action which
always has consequences.
When you have successfully reframed something it feels different. You
will feel lighter, something has been composted, the weight of the lead
has lifted, transformed, and you are left with the gold, the treasure.
We cannot change the facts of our history... but we can change the way
we view them. With a new view comes a new reality. Like magic,
the world around you will seem different yet it isn’t the world
that has changed, it is your view, and You. This is divine alchemy at
work!
To allow your past to hold you back somewhere in time long gone is to
keep yourself out of the present, bound to past moments and a reality
that is gone. It’s as if bungy cords were tied to your feet….you
attempt to move forward and your ‘lead’ pings you back. Reframing
can release those bungy cords and allow a gold rush of life force back
into your life.
Explore the experiences that have up until now pulled you down and seek
a new view, a reframe. Reframing is not an invention, rather a description
of what we do anyway when we change our perspective. I am suggesting we
find reframes more consciously so as to accelerate our growth by unleashing
hitherto trapped energy. We all have patterns of thinking that have evolved
out of our interpretation of life. These patterns, or ‘views’,
or ‘frames’, fuel our behaviour. Change the frames, and behaviour
and consequences will naturally change too, to fit the new reality. Reframe
the past so you view your history as one great weaving of experiences,
all of which have helped shape you. Compost the crap and use it to free
up the energy you will need to deal with the present and fertilise the
future.
So look at the layout and fundamental structure of your ‘garden
of consciousness’. Do your weeding, keep what nourishes and uplifts
you, compost the crap (with expert help if you need it – this is
where a competent therapist or guide can help), plant new views and watch
your life flourish.
Your life is your business, and, you are part of the whole. You matter as we all matter. We are told by virtually every commentator that we are living in times of unprecedented crisis and challenge on many fronts right now. Things are speeding up no question. It’s our human tendency to wait for crisis to make changes. We don’t need to, but if that’s what it takes then dig deep and you will find resources you didn’t even know were there. It is in a crisis that we find what we are really made of. We can’t go back in time and change what is here and now, all we can do is change how we see it. So as soon as you can, accept and bless the crises we are currently experiencing as a planet and as a species. They are opening us up to let go of the views that has got us here so we are free to co-create some vibrant newies. As Leonard Cohen so deftly says “There’s a crack, a crack in everything – that’s how the light gets in”.
Amanda Fleming
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